Hello, my depressed souls! I know that I promised to share my secrets with you last month. Guess it’s been a long time since then! But in the meanwhile, I’ve been trying my methods, yet again, to verify if they still work the way they did the first time. And yes, they still do! (For me at least, and I hope they would work for you too.)
Let me first say to you that depression is not bad. So there is no reason for you to get depressed over your depression. This thought, ‘why am I depressed?’, is causing more devastation than the depression itself. If you are depressed right now or have been in the past, then you are one of the rare fortunate people that this existence has chosen for bestowing maturity and growth through your own experience. But for this realisation to happen, you must overcome depression. In fact, it can be done either way – once you overcome depression, you will yourself feel fortunate to have matured. And vice versa, if you can accept and feel this fact that you are fortunate, your depression will go on its own. No other effort is required. If you genuinely accept that there is some learning hidden behind the event that triggered the state of depression, it has to go, it cannot stay with you any longer. Because now you will introspect and look for a lesson and simply move on.
In other words, the mere acceptance of the fact that you are depressed is enough to get you rid of it. And this is a very important aspect that I speak of – the problem does not lie in the disease, but in its non-acceptance. The moment you accept, the very same moment it will stop bothering you, or at least the intensity will go down. This is the ultimate solution and foremost, for those who are courageous enough to identify and accept the existence of this disease.
But it’s ok if you cannot take this jump. For some, baby steps are easier to practice, and that’s perfectly alright. In fact, I took baby steps too. The most important thing is to not resist, and instead, support it. So, if you feel like crying or screaming, do that, in a closed room perhaps. This is a very widely known therapy – catharsis. In my next post, I will share details of how I’ve done it in all these years, but for now, just google up and start practising.
Then music helps immensely. Set your own playlist and do some workout or maybe just dance, or sing along. Dance like no one is watching. Do not just listen to music. Add an activity to it, like singing or dancing, so you’re not carried away while listening to your favourite playlist.
Also, it can be a good time to invest in your hobby or start a new one. The more creative you are, the less prone you will be to depression. For me, a simple colouring book is as effective.
Sometimes, it can be good to talk to a real person. So here is an activity you can try. Find at least 10 people and share the reason for your sadness/depression with them. But please tell them beforehand that they should not be offering any unsolicited advice since this is only therapy. After you have shared your saga with about 4-5 people, you will see the difference. The emotions that you would have displayed in the very first sharing will not be there as soon as you approach towards the last one.
Please be aware that these methods may or may not work for you. If that’s is the case, it is best to seek medical help. However, if you have the will and faith, you will definitely overcome depression by trying out these self-help techniques. Also, these need to be practised regularly for the results to appear, so patience is required. For clinical help, you can try psychologists and other related professionals who can guide to overcome depression. You can try websites like www.juno.clinic, www.livehealthonline.com, www.dialmyangel.com for online therapists and psychiatrists. Or feel free to drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org if you feel that I can be of any help to you.
If you plan to try any of the methods I suggested, please do let me know your feedback. And in case I feel I have missed out on something, I will make sure to include it in my next post. Until then… Buh-bye!